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How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester?

    avishai How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Fri, 26 Jun 2009 20:40:00 GMT (6/26/2009) edit


    United States Oregon

    Post 7726 of 8196
    Since 7/25/2002

    I mean, C'mon, people. Seriously, i admire those who want to think the best. But the guy had just about every red flag/indicator you can have.  It's like those situations when someone close to you is abusive and you don't want to believe it. "Well, he's never hit me, he's just pushed me and twisted my arms behind my back" "She's not abusive, she just throws things at my head when I make her mad, some women are just like that." MJ wasn't an "aggressive" pedophile that I saw, he was more the grooming, manipulative type. Seriously

    cameo-d Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Fri, 26 Jun 2009 20:46:00 GMT (6/26/2009) edit



    Post 3667 of 4848
    Since 7/30/2008

    eunichs do not have libido. People who have been castrated have no sexual desires.

    as Doe said, "a settlement is not proof of guilt" and is very common in court.

    Sometimes it's just the path of least resistence to get on with your life for whatever reasons.

     

     

    BizzyBee Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Fri, 26 Jun 2009 20:51:00 GMT (6/26/2009) edit


    United States California

    Post 4054 of 4870
    Since 1/9/2006

    "a settlement is not proof of guilt"

    and an acquittal is not proof of innocence................(think OJ)

    avishai Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Fri, 26 Jun 2009 20:53:00 GMT (6/26/2009) edit


    United States Oregon

    Post 7727 of 8196
    Since 7/25/2002

    Bullshit.  And I'm not saying MJ is a eunuch, but in cases where sex offenders have been castrated, chemically or physically, it only lowers recidivism 40%, not 100%. Sexual abuse is about power and control, not sex or libido.

    VoidEater Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Fri, 26 Jun 2009 20:59:00 GMT (6/26/2009) edit

    United States

    Post 2273 of 2548
    Since 10/30/2007

    I probably fit your criteria.  I do not believe he was a child molester.  My opinion is pretty irrelevent since I never met him, nor worked with anyone in his sphere.

    leavingwt Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Fri, 26 Jun 2009 21:03:00 GMT (6/26/2009) edit


    United States Mississippi

    Post 2884 of 4987
    Since 6/16/2008

    Allow me to personalize the situation: Would I have allowed my kids to visit his home?

    Hell to the No!

    That's all I can say.

    rebel8 Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Fri, 26 Jun 2009 21:06:00 GMT (6/26/2009) edit


    United States New York

    Post 6635 of 7105
    Since 1/13/2005

    Can't say I'm one of those who DON'T think it.

    I understand the burden of proof has not been met and so the truth will never be known (by us). 

    But.....having treated molesters, and having read what MJ did admit to, I think he was probably guilty.

     

    mkr32208 Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Fri, 26 Jun 2009 23:14:00 GMT (6/26/2009) edit


    United States Florida

    Post 3739 of 3937
    Since 5/24/2004

    One less pedo and today the world is a slightly better place...

    shamus100 Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Fri, 26 Jun 2009 23:23:00 GMT (6/26/2009) edit




    Post 2600 of 3768
    Since 2/10/2008

    I can't say he was, and I can't say he wasn't.  I also can't say that any one of the silent lambs didn't get molested either.

    Do I think he molested boys?  Sure, my personal opinion is he's a child molester.

    doofdaddy Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Fri, 26 Jun 2009 23:33:00 GMT (6/26/2009) edit


    Australia New South Wales

    Post 1143 of 1209
    Since 5/18/2005

    I work directly in this field and if you took away his fame and just looked at the facts.....

     

    JeffT Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Sat, 27 Jun 2009 00:56:00 GMT (6/27/2009) edit


    United States Washington

    Post 3286 of 3721
    Since 6/4/2001

    I've done some volunteer crisis counseling over the years, and God knows I've met enough victims at AA meetings.  I don't know if he did it.  I do not know that he did not do it.  However, the man was FREAKING weird.  Normal adult men do not sleep with children, if for no other reason than the possible accusations scare the $hit out of them.   No child or grandchild of mine would have been allowed alone in a room with him.

    shamus100 Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Sat, 27 Jun 2009 01:02:00 GMT (6/27/2009) edit




    Post 2605 of 3768
    Since 2/10/2008

    NO SHIT MAN!

    Oh, and I was never a counsellor or anything like that - I did need to identify people who exhibited signs of sexual abuse and report it, so nowhere near a social worker. 

    Lady Lee Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Sat, 27 Jun 2009 01:05:00 GMT (6/27/2009) edit


    Canada Ontario

    Post 13700 of 14073
    Since 6/29/2001

    I agree there are a lot of indicators that something happened but I haven't seen or heard the evidence.

    But I sure as hell would never have left my grandchildren with him.

    crapola Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Sat, 27 Jun 2009 01:09:00 GMT (6/27/2009) edit

    United States Oklahoma

    Post 443 of 655
    Since 1/23/2008

    I believe he was as guilty of child molesting as OJ was of murder.  Just because it was'nt "proven" does'nt mean it did'nt happen.

    I think that's why so many young ones are afraid to admit it when something happens to them,, they feel they won't be believed.

    FlyingHighNow Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Sat, 27 Jun 2009 01:11:00 GMT (6/27/2009) edit


    United States Michigan

    Post 15650 of 16492
    Since 9/27/2003

    Social workers are notorious for being overly excitable and frequently wrong when trying to "protect" children. Some of them are sensible and use good judgment. Enough of them have religious or psychological problems of their own and end up ruining innocent people's lives. I have profound reasons for saying this. Employers, private or government, need to put social workers through much more rigorous testing and screening than they currently do. There is also a big need to weigh heavily the religious influence on the worker's judgment and decision making abilities.

    ziddina Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Sat, 27 Jun 2009 02:22:00 GMT (6/27/2009) edit



    Post 396 of 482
    Since 4/8/2009

    Good question, Avishai, really goood question.  Personally, I agree with those who said that, even though he wasn't convicted in a court of law, they wouldn't have allowed him anywhere near their children/grandchildren.

    Better safe than sorry.  He was weird; in my opinion a bad influence even if one took away the threat/possibility of child molestation.  Unbalanced childhood in extremely dysfunctional family; inability to handle adult responsibilities even after reaching chronological adulthood...   Zid

    The Almighty Homer Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Sat, 27 Jun 2009 02:39:00 GMT (6/27/2009) edit



    Post 98 of 829
    Since 5/31/2009

    I'd have to say I 'm on the side of those who say he was guilty of sexually playing around with young boys, for the following reasons.

    Firstly his first accusation where he settled out of court and got the accusing parties to hush up about the incident, he paid out 20 million $ US for this.

    I'm sorry I don't see how any one would not fight this accusation in court with all of his wealth to hire the best lawyers in the country and to save

    his reputation among his family and friends not to mention the general public, it just doesn't make sense or logic.

    Now the second accusation may have been trumped up by the people knowing that the first accusation paid off so well, but he paid out 

    20 million or so anyways just to fight the case which he was acquitted, thanks to an army of the best lawyers in the land.

    Its apparent when certain people get so rich and so unconstrained in their every day life they start to believe they can do anything they want to

    certainly above what would be considered normal social behavior to the majority of us.  Micheal Jackson fit that bill well, it was said that he was

    a millionaire who spent money like a billionaire wildly out of control at times , much like a kid in a candy store with a no limit spending spree.

    My guess is when he started into this physical training program to get him prepared for his up coming concert series,  he may have experienced

    some difficult pain and might have taken more than the usual amount of pain killers which may have brought on the cardiac arrest.  

    looloo Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Sat, 27 Jun 2009 10:47:00 GMT (6/27/2009) edit



    Post 254 of 272
    Since 11/7/2007

    not certain  really but if my life depended on which choice i made i would go with guilty ,  i know from experiance how manipulative  and dishonest abusers can be .    i also know from child protection trainig i recently did  that it is very unlikley that a kid would make abuse up .

    JustHuman14 Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Sat, 27 Jun 2009 10:52:00 GMT (6/27/2009) edit



    Post 162 of 277
    Since 3/24/2009

    I'm of those who can't say he was or he wasn't a molster. But for sure only time will show what really happened with MJ

    purplesofa Re: How many here have worked in social work, etc. & DON'T think MJ was a molester? posted Sat, 27 Jun 2009 10:58:00 GMT (6/27/2009) edit


    United States Arkansas

    Post 9610 of 10764
    Since 2/19/2005

    good post FHN

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