Does anyone have a working link for Preparing for Child custody

I am about 3 months away from going to court with my 'x' over our children, and i would like to know what this booklet says.

i have tried the links by searching the site but all are dead

thanks in advance

steve]

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I don't know your situation but I wanted to warn you. That booklet is the biggest package of bullshit I've ever seen. If you think "theocratic warfare" is lying and is a hypocritical practice, wait until you read that booklet. With a little imagination, as you listen to the JW parent and/or their lawyer (and you better have a damn good lawyer, esp. if the JW is the mother), you would swear that all JW kids are in the marching band, chess club (chess was once frowned on by the WT), after school sports, and away football games every Saturday. You'd also think they loved the holidays so much that you better get the kid a present for Christmas.

I cannot fathom how any JW can defend the sewage found in that booklet. It's one of the biggest crocks that they ever published.

yeah its an intersting read, and yes it is the mother that is a JW, and its in the UK.

But i know she has 'witnessess laywers now' some recommendation of a lot up in manchester, so i wanted to know what i could face.

I want my kids out of that house and religion ...yesterday

My son who is 9 is amazingly bright... ahead one year in school, yet already all he wants is to go full time pioneer.....

Having been through these things myself, I ask you: why are you battling with your ex over custody? Really. You should examine your own reasons for this pursuit. Sometimes the end results are not really what you would end up liking the best. More questions:

• Do you realize how painful this will be for all involved, including grandparents, other relatives, friends, but most of all you, your ex and your children?
• Is she abusive?
• Is she a good mother?
• Do you understand you can do a lot of good with your children if you get them on the weekends, holidays, for the summer, etc.?
• Do you understand that even if you gain custody, she can keep you in court for the rest of your childrens' childhoods trying to get custody back?
• Have you not noticed that many couples do better by sharing custody and responsibility for their children and the children do better?

I've seen couples who realize that it's not so bad sharing custody or the weekend/holiday/summer arrangements. They decide it's better to get along and work together, to be civil, even friendly to each other. The children have bedrooms at both houses and get to enjoy the best each fragment of their family has to offer.

Fighting parents do not realize how quickly childhood passes. Then they are left looking back at all the energy, money and time they wasted battling each other, when they could have used those resources, passions and energies truly helping their children have the best childhood and family experience possible under the circumstances.

Something you don't realize now: it's exhausting getting kids ready for daycare centers, school, making lunches, making sure their homework is done, laundry is done, etc. If your wife has the children during the week, she is the one with all this responsibility.

If you get them on the weekends, you get them when you are less tired. You get to do the fun things with them. You'll have more energy to focus on school projects, weekend camping trips and recreation.

You can set up a joint custody arrangement where she cannot make the important decisions about medical care and where the children will go to school without you. So that you'll have the right to insist they be allowed to join the scouts, clubs, etc.

I know people who don't have physical custody, but they welcome the break they get from the kids to regroup and enjoy them on the the weekends. I am telling you this because it could be a workable alternative you haven't considered.