You Aren't Good Enough to Spend Time With Us, But Your Money Is Just Fine

I think you already an$wered ... Your money is ju$t fine!

$orry to hear your family i$ treating you $o $habbily, $cully.

You might wi$h to a$k them directly ... exactly that que$tion. Maybe it'$ time for a little communicating?  A$ in: get the i$$ue out on the table? Do they really think thi$ hypocricy ha$ gone unnoticed by you?

Love,

E$TEE

"Why should I give $200 of my hard earned wages to people who won't permit me in their home or speak to me?" I would make this question to your siblings.

Scully, I know what you mean. We gave money to my JW brother and his "poor excuse-of -a-wife" for quite some time. My brother isn't allowed to speak to me, or visit, and I'm not DF'd or DA'd either.  But , his wife sure liked getting her hands on our hard-earned cash. My brother has never been without a job, he just can't seem to make enough to keep his lazy wife happy.  They made the rounds to many of my family members, until the cashflow was finally cut off. Then they moved to another town. Her entire family lives in the same manner..... It's despicable.

        Delilah 

I would have just three words for her:  GET - A - JOB

Damn leaches.  I can't stand people like that.

Always taking... never giving.

 

My brother's wife has had many jobs, she works just until she gets a big paycheck, then goes on a shopping spree.  How many people do you know, who can go into a dollar store, and spend a couple hundred dollars???  I'm not talking about buying things for a party either....just STUFF....

       Delilah 

Delilah:

Are you sure we're not sisters? This is exactly what my brother's wife does. She can not hold a job to save her ass, but she always gets just one or two paychecks....and spends spends spends.

 

Scully, you must tell us what happened.  And where is Talesin?

I've got the opposite problem.

My sister and I want to contribute to a gift for my parents anniversary but my brother doesn't want any part of it.  Go figure...

 

There's a belief that one shouldn't loan money to friends or family.  If you do, just say goodbye to it, and forget about it.  Family have asked us for money, but we have made a pact between us, husband and wife, that if it isn't for food, shelter, or medical, we won't give it.  It has to be an emergency for us to give it.

His family is rich, mine is poor.  My family seems to think that because my husband's familly has money, that they are obligated to share with them.  They are obligated to NOTHING.

CG

I have a rule.  I never lend something that I'm going to get upset about not getting back...

 

Yes I would not donate a cent

Scully, I feel for you.  What ever happened with this?

A while back I posted about my friend who killed himself.  Well, my mom was pushing for all of us to send money to help the family with expenses and to help his estranged wife get a car.  I was fine with sending money, but my mom insisted that we pool money and send one check.  I was uncomfortable with that, because I know that I am able to contribute the larger portion of the money, and my sister probably would not be able to contribute at all, but it would look as though it was even.  It's not that I care so much about getting the credit - but my friend's family has contributed to nasty rumours about me, including saying that I don't even go to work and my family has to run my business for me.  Considering that I am having more financial success than the rest of my family, it just hit me wrong.

It's sad, but I think this situation is terribly common.  There is a precedent, if you think about it.  Is there anyone who is not allowed to contribute money to the WTS?

Bravo, Lady!! 

I was invited to my nephew's wedding a few years back, and being DF'd and remembering how he had said he never wanted to hear from me again in his last communique, I decided NOT to bother going, or giving them a gift.  Kiss my ass, quite frankly. 

 

I guess every cloud has a silver lining. My family never talks to me, but they don't hit me up for money like they always used to either.

Tammy