My Step-Son Called at 2 AM and Threaten Physical Harm

Last night he called at 2 AM, woke my wife up, she answered the phone. He was drunk, yelling and threatening to break into our house and physically harm me because I had his sorry ass thrown out for punching my stomach and destroyed our property while drunk on that day on July 8th.

She hit the flasher button (strobe light attached to a remote thingy that is activated by a remote button) and woke me up. I go to her room and find her crying. I asked her what was wrong and she told me about the phone call. Now that pisses me off. I consoled her and stayed with her until she fell back to sleep.

This crap makes me mad and on top of that, because she had to be at dialysis later in the morning, she left at 10 AM this morning dead tired. I do not appreciate his shit and especially on account of her well being, physically and health wise.

After she left for Dialysis, I called the police. He took my report, saw the caller ID on the phone, the two phone numbers that I knew about and the address of where he's staying with his g/f who still lives with her mom.

I hope the cop locks him up, he's very dangerous. I had to change alot of how we used to live and make our home more secure. We don't feel safe with him on the loose, IMO.

Yiz

What a rude awakening. I'm sorry your family has that kind of trauma and esp. sorry for the way he ruined your wifes day. I hope the matter is dealt with properly and you stay safe.

That sucks, man. Hope it works out.

I'm sorry that this is happening.

It's good that the police have been contacted.

I'm scared crapless because if he breaks in, I won't hear it and he would have me dead to rights in bed asleep.

I wish I could afford a guard dog that's ready trained.

Yiz

Maybe you can get a friend to spend a few days with you until this blows over.

Keep 911 on speed dial.

Sorry you're having to go though this.

I hope your son gets the help he needs

lisa

Calling the cops is important... I know of several instances where when people were doing strange hurtful

things like this ,when the cops talked to them things settled down very quickly for them . IF nothing else a record of

their behavior will be a value in the future !

Hope things work out for you...living in fear is not comfortable for sure !

It is also of value to the aggressor ,it may validate in writing that they need help

My oldest son is drug-addicted and alcoholic and I have had some of this behavior out of him in the past.  My heart goes out to you and your wife having to deal with this.  Have you thought about an unlisted number?  Then he at least could not call and get your wife upset in the middle of the night.  It was good you called the police and made a report.  You could also consider getting an order of protection.  There is no guarantee he would respect it, but if he did come and try something his legal consequences would be a lot more severe. 

I hope he gets into recovery.  But whether he does or does not, you and your wife might be helped by Al-Anon.  It is a 12 step program for people whose lives are affected by their loved ones who are alcoholic.  It helped me a great deal in years past.  Just a thought. 

Best wishes to you and your wife. 

if it was true you'd have called the cops, not posted here.

you're full of shit.

Hey Yiz - sounds rough. You posted before that you had obtained a restraining order against your step son. Surely you can get some police protection in view of this?

Shut your phone off, at night.  No need to let an idiot remotely disturb your sleep.  There's lots you can do to secure doors and windows.  You can prop boards underneath the door knobs jamed against a small cleat screwed to the floor.  Put pins in the hinge sides of the doors.  Wire screens or steel bars screwed into the windows.  Hang windchimes against the windoes or doors at night, so they will chime if someone rattles them.  Or, you can get a security company to put sensors on all the windows and/or doors.  Lots of other things.  Read up on it.

S

Tape record the calls.

villabolo

Priest, He DID call the cops. Read it again. I have been through the threatening phone calls waking me out of sleep. That's what I get for having good looking daughters and being in the JW org. It is miserable. I think Yiz is doing the best he can and has shown a lot of spunk to resist the bullying of his piece of shit stepson.  Be nice.

After she left for Dialysis, I called the police. He took my report, saw the caller ID on the phone, the two phone numbers that I knew about and the address of where he's staying with his g/f who still lives with her mom.

Now see, that's not what I expected from Priest73.  I expected Priest to say something like "hey, you should get a CI", in response to: "I'm scared crapless because if he breaks in, I won't hear it and he would have me dead to rights in bed asleep."

Invite him over for a pow wow. When he gets there set him down with a beer. Get behind him and knock his [edit] brains out with a baseball bat. (pretend you're trying to put one over the center field fence). Drop a knife next to him and call the cops. While you're waiting have a nice, one sided, chat with his dead ass. Sleep well. There will be a lot of paperwork after, but so what?

I like Gregor's idea, but you need a shotgun.

Great idea Gregor!  Self defense...Remember this line "I feared for my life"

Yiz, I know you have a restraining order, but you can also take out a communicating threats warrant against him. The cops should step in with just the restraining order though. Do you at least have a gun to defend yourself? If not, you need to get one.

Was it a restraining order that didn't expire? Don't they have temporary restraining orders?

If so don't phone calls count as going against the restraining order and become grounds for arrest?

Snoozy..

Priest,

Are you drunk or just a complete asshole?

HappyDad

  YIZUMAN- I'm so sorry you and your wife are going through this. Do you know for sure that your stepson does not have any keys he may have made off to your house without you being aware of it ? If I were you- I'd change your locks just in case. Right after my Methamphetamine drug user ex-wife # 2 left I IMMEDIATELY had all the locks changed on the house 6 years ago. Is your stepson involved with Meth ?  Reason I ask is that's ONE of the signs - huge paranoia and anger management problems with the threatening behavior. Time to batten down the hatches bro. Hang in there , take care of you and your wife - keep the little tyrant away from you guys. Peace out, Mr. Flipper