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JW SINGLES site shut down due to GUILT!

    F Survivor2004 posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 01:21:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    Hi folks.

    I have been lurking on and off for about 2 years now and before I did post a couple threads under my old alias but it wont accept it for some reason so I had to re-join.

    Anyway there was a singles site called JWsingles.net by a nice fellow who wanted to help other lonely JW single folks meet but he is about to shut it down despite some SUCCESS stories which I guess makes the elders UPSET.

    I had joined two years ago and was on the mailing list(I,ve been inactive for about 5 years now)Thats the SHORT version,anyway,I got this e-mail from him the other day and it really infuriated me because he did nothing wrong but again the Organization wants to CONTROL every aspect of their lives,including NOT letting JW,s put up harmless websites for singles to meet.After all in many many congregations there is a severe SHORTAGE of available singles right?And,If they dont even want you to look for a mate in their OWN organization (on the net) then they will look OUTSIDE of the organization but I guess they are too dense to understand that.

    His letter wreaks of GUILT and he hangs his head in shame at congregations.I fail to see HOW he has stumbled others here.Its none of others business what ADULT JW,s want to meet someone.

    I understand the heartache of being all alone for many many years with no one and no suitable mates there as they were too stuffy and I felt like I could never match up no matter how hard I tried.I shed too many tears to count as Im sure many here have as well.

    Anyway here is the e-mail.

    Greetings friends.

    This will most likely be the last message you recieve from JW Singles.net.

    The site has been running for several years now with its main goal to help those of like faith find and if they wish contact each other.We,ve met that goal with several success stories.Im very glad to say that an old friend of mine from a congregation in Maryland met a wonderful sister from California.After months of phone calls and trips and bible studies over the phone,they were married.Both are extremely happy with their new mates.

    There are other stories the friends have shared when asking to have their profiles removed.

    However I cannot continue to justify the site against the councel of the WBT society.I am tired of sinking in my seat at assemblies and conventions when they mention websites to avoid.It is also not my place to second guess the faithful and discreet salve and the connection they have with Jehovahs spirit in guiding the organization in these last days.While I believe that with proper theocratic guidelines this site can be used ,like many have demonstrated to a good cause,I will not possibly stumble my brothers and sisters.

    I have thought of selling the site to help recoup the expenses I incurred while developing and running the site ,but again I dont want the responsibility of passing it off to someone else,possibly a wordly company or person.

    After the last paying members subscription has run out,I will open the full site with access to every member .This will be the last chance to try and contact some of the 2000 members we have.Right now Im targeting September as the final month the site will run.Our information on the site will be deleted as the database of users is erased.If you care to make a donation of any size while the site is still open to everyone our paypal address is _________ or contact me for a mailing address.

    Thanks to all those who have tried to help and build the idea I had into a functioning and useful program.I wish you all well and continued strenght in this time of the end.All of the friends are tired and are struggling just to make it to meetings instead of staying home with a headache or working a little late.Be upbuilding to each other ,help to show love amongst ourselves and continue to walk with God until the end.

    Agape

    Brian

    JW Singles.net'

    So there you have it,dont even THINK of trying to find a partner on the big bad evil Internet.The org will force you to shut down.

    Ann

    F Survivor2004 posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 01:28:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    Hmmmmm I dont see my post in the Friends section.

    Why?

    After all that typing.

    Where is it?

    F jgnat posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 01:29:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    You are right, JW singles are in a serious bind. No viable prospects locally, "worldly" folk are unnacceptable, and JW's of like mind unavailable through the internet.

    I am sorry that Brian feels the need to shut the site down. What if that JWsingles.net community started a campaign, begging him to keep going? Surely 2000 voices could be heard....wouldn't want to stumble THEM.

    Edited to add: Hang in there, Survivor. It takes a minute for the new thread to appear.

    M William Penwell posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 01:43:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    The letter stated:

    "However I cannot continue to justify the site against the councel control of the WBT society." Then the letter goes on to say how we are now in the time of the end ... blah blah blah... Now where have I heard this all before? The problem is this is counsel coming form a bunch of old men that have nothing else better to do with their lives and couldn't get laid if their life depended on it.

    Anyway Ann all the best to you in your search for that right partner or firend. I know a few of us have been at it for a while.

    Will

    F Survivor2004 posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 01:45:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    OH thank you!

    LOL

    I thought I was losing my mind! :)

    IM from Canada too,I guess I,ll make up my profile.

    And yes singles are doomed no matter what.If there are no suitable mates and your not ALLOWED to date worldy folks your in a pitiful situation and they just dont understand HUMAN NEEDS.They SUCK at it! Just read your bible and pray.Well after so many years and hard knocks and sorrow it just dont work anymore.You NEED human contact.I always had such a great social life in the world,lots of friends,then I joined the org and POOF! I was all alone.The congregations that I belonged to were all FAMILIES and relatives.I got invited to go bowling once a year.I never got asked out by any brother and Im NOT ugly.I cried way too much to stay anymore.The rejection killed me but that was only part of why I drifted away.There is so much more.I,ll tell it sometime.

    Thanks again and its nice to meet you.

    Ann

    F Survivor2004 posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 01:47:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    Thank you too William.

    Gee it sure dont take long to get replies around here! LOL

    This forum is very ACTIVE.

    Ann :)

    M William Penwell posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 01:54:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    Ann,

    I agree fully with you. Seems like when I was a JW there were so many different clicks within the congregations. If you didn't fit in due to the fact that we weren't a good witness or were not in the same financial status as them then you were never ask out to group functions. To go out with anyone out side of having marriage proposal was a no no and associating with "worldly" ones was forbidden. It is tough and I think we have all been there.

    Will

    M Poztate posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 01:57:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    Hmmmmm I dont see my post in the Friends section.

    After posting force the page to refresh itself by hitting F5....and welcome.

    Atilla posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 04:34:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    Yuck, his letter makes me ill and he seems cheap if you ask me. Why doesn't he just refund the money and end it now if the site is so wrong. I mean if your caught having unmarried sex, do you tell the elders you will quit in a few months, say September. Also, uh, the agape ending, makes me ill. I can say at least I never used that cheesy JW fake talk.

    wednesday posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 04:58:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    can say at least I never used that cheesy JW fake talk

    I agree with that 100% people will put that at the end of letters of say it to u, and it really means" u are not my friend, and i really would not spit on u if u were on fire, but the love of God forces me to recognize your existence. Do not speak to me, however"

    XQsThaiPoes posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 05:22:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    This is a cop out. I and others have had corespodance with the watchtower. They only two sites they endorse are watchtower.org and jw-media.org. They (due to legal reasons) give no oppinion on sites not owned by them and tell you to use your discretion while surfing the internet. So the old men in brooklyn have nothing to do with it. Who ever this guy is he is probally in trouble with his locals.

    F FlyingHighNow posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 06:42:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    I know a few of us have been at it for a while.

    Will

    Aren't you married yet, Will?

    Ann, being single as a JW is hell and many, many JWs marry the wrong person just so they can be married. I was one of them and after 20 years my mostly unhappy marriage broke up. Now, I have a much happier relationship with a worldly guy. He treats me better and there's none of the headship issues.

    Flyin'

    M gumby posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 06:44:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    They (due to legal reasons) give no oppinion on sites not owned by them and tell you to use your discretion while surfing the internet. So the old men in brooklyn have nothing to do with it. Who ever this guy is he is probally in trouble with his locals.

    That's right dubs.....the Watchtower never gives you any warnings, or council, or ever has any articles in the KM or Watchtower about the dangers of the internet and being cautious about Apostate sites..........so you go right ahead and feel free to browse and "use your own discretion where you want to surf on the net".

    Nice one again there XQ....right on the button!

    Gumby

    F Sassy posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 07:33:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    I was on that site for a short while when it first opened up before I met my 2nd husband (the asshole- ex husband)

    Brian was a nice guy.. too bad they put the guilt on him to close the site

    shamus posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 08:10:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    I recall making up a fake alias and having a good laugh, until my conscience got to me. It was a pretty ignorant thing to do, although it was still quite funny.

    It is too bad that they have to shut it down. How else can they meet?

    Anyhow, enough said. It is a real lonely existence being a Jehovahs Witness and being single. Just more strain on the 'sheep'.

    F FlyingHighNow posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 09:02:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    All of the friends are tired and are struggling just to make it to meetings instead of staying home with a headache or working a little late.Be upbuilding to each other ,help to show love amongst ourselves and continue to walk with God until the end.

    Good grief, why don't JWs get a clue that constantly being so exhausted is not healthy. It breaks down the immune system. It happened to our little family and it happened to so many others. We would get every kind of infection. It was terrible. I am much healthier now.

    Flyin'

    M fleaman uk posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 09:24:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    Im very glad to say that an old friend of mine from a congregation in Maryland met a wonderful sister from California.After months of phone calls and trips and bible studies over the phone,they were married.Both are extremely happy with their new mates

    Yikes,what a waste of valuable dirty talk time!!

    F lisavegas420 posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 11:07:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    While this JW SINGLES may be shutting down, others are still doing well it appears...I received this in my email address this today .

    Subject: JWconnections Special Announcement

    Dear Members: As you may or may not have heard, JWconnections is going to be re-launched as a new service with new features and functionality. I am writing you today to confirm that these rumors are true. At this point, we hope to re-launch JWconnections as a new service on or before September 1. We will be sending a detailed email to you in the middle of August outlining the new features of the site as well as other important account information. The new JWconnections will be unlike any online dating site. You will not be disappointed with the new and exciting features on the new JWconnections. I can assure you, the new service is unique and the features on the new site are not found on any other dating service on the Web. Stay tuned for details! -The JWconnections Team

    F Doubtfully Yours posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 12:53:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    That's really too bad!

    Although I'm happily married at this time, I always thought a website for JW singles looking for mates was a great idea.

    Perhaps in the near future someone with more guts will build a new website for JW singles to meet.

    I've known of 2 couples that met and married through the JW singles website and they're thankful for it.

    DY

    christopherrobin posted Thu, 05 Aug 2004 17:11:00 GMT(8/5/2004)

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    What a crock!!!!--It semms it is OK to meet a deperate, single mate at assemblies, conventions or through connections with friends (and how many of these put on a front of spirituality, submission(females), or strong leadership qualities(males)--only to find out after marriage that these circumstances were not ideal for finding a true lifelong mate.

    Then, along comes a site were you have the same chance of meeting someone. Whether they are good mate material is not the fault of the medium (whether it is the internet or typical JW hook up scenarios)-------and all of a sudden because the internet opens you up to more of a chance of learning things that are eye-opening, plus--they can't regulate what you are doing( and with who)--they claim they are only looking out for our best interests.

    I could'nt begin to count how many nice, attractive, decent people are stuck in singlehood because their options are limited by these controlling methods!!!!!

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