How Many Out There Have to Hide or Be Stealthy When They Visit This Site? I know I do.


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    PaintedToeNail posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:10:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    I cannot look at this site freely, it would make my hubby and son very upset. I have to hide what I'm looking at, or try to view this page very late or very early in the morning. Hubby has taken to getting up at 11:30pm or later, to see what I'm doing on the computer. I have no other outside sources for friendship or comraderie-so this site is a lifeline for me.

    Does anyone else have to sneak to be here?

    baltar447 posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:18:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    Use the incognito mode on your web brower. have some shopping or hobby sites open behind so that way when he comes in you can quickly close and have otehr crap open.

    breakfast of champions posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:19:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    I use my iPostate Pad.

    Crisis of Conscience posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:21:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    I have to be stealthy. But I actually am on here, normally just reading, a few times a day. Do you have a smartphone? That works great for me.


    OUTLAW posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:22:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    I live under the Floor of JWN with a bunch of Oriental People..

    We only come up when it`s safe..


    wannabefree posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:25:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    No worry, your husband probably feels the same way when he is looking at porn.

    Crisis of Conscience posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:29:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    Paintedtoenail - If you have a smartphone/tablet, the following thread may be of help.

    PaintedToeNail posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:29:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    Outlaw! lol! you are too much!

    baltar447-I do use the incognito mode, and have another page open...still, my son asks what I'm looking at in incog. mode and I have to constantly close the page if I leave the computer for a few minutes. Thanks for the suggestion though!

    CoC-No, I don't have a smartphone. Or an iPostate pad.

    Crisis of Conscience posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:39:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    Paintedtoenail - Time for an upgrade?? LOL

    A smartphone makes a great reading/posting station for JWN, at least for me.

    baltar447 posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:51:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    lol tell your son You're looking at lingerie

    breakfast of champions posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 18:58:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    OUTLAW - LOL! That was funny.

    PaintedToeNail posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 19:02:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    balthar447-That is exactly what I should do. He would die of embarassment. He is very straight laced, he has been since he was a little kid, no thanks to me-I tend to be outrageous.

    finally awake posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 19:07:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    The first few days I was lurking here I was careful to do it in stealth mode and I kept a different tab open so I could switch over if the kids or the husband got nosy. Now, I leave it up and logged in all the time. There's a password on the screensaver to keep the kids off my computer though.

    OUTLAW posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 19:11:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    Living under the Floor of JWN with Oriental People isn`t easy..

    I`m begining to think there`s something Wong with me..


    Morbidzbaby posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 19:29:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    I used to have to be careful because I was on a public PC for the longest time. I was always looking over my shoulder because I lived in a heavily JW-populated area (5 congregations within 10 miles).

    When I was married, I used to visit a different site (that my ex wouldn't approve of because of some of the topics) and I had to be VERY careful because that's where I went to vent anonymously. I talked about my marriage, the JW's and how much I was coming to hate the religion, etc. Come to think of it, I had to be careful no matter what I was looking at because he was such a tight-ass. Like your husband, mine took to coming in at all hours of the night to see what I was up to. Funny story: He used to just walk up behind me and stand there with his arms crossed waiting for me to say something or turn around. After he did that a bunch of times, I started ignoring him. No way was I playing his little control game! So when I was visiting a boyfriend a few years ago, I couldn't sleep so I was online...he came up and stood in the hallway and just waited for me to turn around. Old habits die hard, and I completely ignored him LOL. He was butthurt over it, though. The next morning he was all grumpified and I had to explain why I had ignored him. But yeah, my ex was a complete prude and was trying to monitor what I was doing online. What the hell makes these JW men think they OWN us?? I couldn't watch what I wanted, read what I wanted, listen to music that I wanted...they all had to be approved by him or I had to be a friggin' sneak, which I HATE. Imagine my surprise when I came home and caught him whacking off and watching porn!

    However, I did "clean up after myself" when I was done on the PC. I installed a program called deletes pretty much everything you've done. That really helped because then there was no trail for the sites I visited, therefore, no evidence that I was venting about things.

    Now it's a few years later and I have my own laptop and BF has his PC. I go on whatever sites I want (*cough* even porn), he doesn't care what I do online. Once in awhile he'll ask what I'm up to as a way to make conversation. Or he'll show me stuff on his PC and I'll show him stuff on my laptop. He knows I come here. He knows it's therapeutic at times. He really couldn't care less what I do online. But I know what it's like to have to hide and be sneaky. It makes you feel so dirty!

    ex360shipper posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 19:36:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    Get a cheap tablet. I just bought a Kindle Fire and it works just fine on this site. Its only 200 bucks and has plenty of great ways to waste time on it too.

    lilbluekitty posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 19:56:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    I was sneaky with this site (and others) at first only because my husband has never been an JW (he's a Christian) and I had been very into the JW stuff for awhile and I didn't want him to know I was having doubts but eventually I just told him and he didn't bat an eyelash. If I was living with my mother still though I would have to be pretty careful deleting my history and stuff, but at least she let me have the computer in my room so I could close the door and if she opened it I'd have time to close the page at least.

    I think in your case, just tell them you're looking at something embarassing, like say you think you're having a female problem and are looking it up. "I need a little privacy, do you mind?" and smile and try to blush. That's what I would do anyway, with the husband that is. Not sure if that would help you or if you would feel too much like you were lying.

    PaintedToeNail posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 20:23:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    MorbidZ-I wouldn't say my hubby is controling, but he is controled by the WTBS. We have had discussions and he basically agrees with just about everything I say, but...he is so indoctrinated from before birth, that he can't see beyond it or life without it. I hate to upset him anymore than he is, he cries because "I won't be there in the New System".

    paladin posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 20:24:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    I have to keep shoulder checking. My wife does not care about web sites like JWN. I even have to shoulder check when i'm outdoors because I live in an area with many elders. When I think about it i feel sick. No freedom.

    PaintedToeNail posted Sat, 07 Jan 2012 20:45:00 GMT(1/7/2012)

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    Paladin-I truly feel your pain, I do the same thing all the time, but thankfully, there are no elders lurking about near me.


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