Ever been the victim of gossip from JW's?

Well, I wasn't the target, but the woman I love--my mom and brother slandered her, made up stories about her based on gossip.  My then girlfriend wanted to accuse my brother of slander.  Now, ironically, she wonders why I have a bone to pick with him.  Sure, I mostly let go of that grudge.  It's just that even though he's an MS/pioneer now, he hung with the very people who did that sort of stuff and acted like it never bothered him.  It's almost like he's got a theocratic license to be that way now, of course. 

But that's all they do is gossip.  I was quick to squash any of that kind of talk when my mom tried to involve me.  "That's none of my business," I would repeatedly say, and refuse to get involved in it.  This was BEFORE I woke up, mind you.  I was actually trying to do what I thought the Society recommended--not run my mouth about the business of others.  (Except I forgot that it was the Bible that said that, not the Society--they just came along 2,000 years later and took the credit.)  (Never mind...)

SD-7

Of course, they have nothing else better to do!

Wow. I didn't realize there were so many jw gossipers. I thought it was just my congregation. I grew up in a small town cong. that consisted mainly of older, single sisters. As soon as a got baptized at 17, a new elder with his family moved in. Their daughter was a couple of years younger than me but she had everyone wrapped around her finger and made my life miserable. I genuinely tried to befriend her and that was the thanks I got. There were 3 other girls a little older than us who weren't any better. It got so bad that at one point(I was around 21), I tried to plan different ways that I could kill myself. Looking back, I don't see how I managed to stay in that religion for so long. I guess that's why it hasn't been too much of a struggle to start fading. I never considered any jw a close friend. They were only people I would hang around when I wanted to have fun. I never trusted any of them.

It's not just the gossip that's the problem. 

In the real world, if someone doesn't like you, they just stay away from you and leave you alone.  There may be a little bit of gossip, but no one is out to UTTERLY DESTROY you, like the JW's do.

That's the difference.

Very much so! Our young child was molested by a much loved brother. It tore us apart and helped lead us away from all them loving(not) b/s  and helped us get to the point we are today.

We can give a crap about what anyone thinks or says about us!! It feels hella good I might add 

Awww... shucks, I was the one gossiping... had nothing better to do.

ESTEE

Highdose, I am sorry to hear that you were a victim of gossip.You know the saying"sticks and stones may break my bones,but names won't ever harm me"?Nothing could be further from the truth!Whether its gossip or being called a name,it sure can hurt.Gossip is nothing more than people feeling insecure about themselves.

I was. I had a business and there was a rumor that I had said I was going to be a millionare in 5 years. Well, if I did say that, I was right if having a net worth of a million dollars is what millionare means.

I guess I got more prophesies right then the bORG has.

LD

As my dear Old departed dad would say, (who wasnt a jw)," if they are speaking about you, then they are leaving some other poor bastard alone".

JWs are the worst on earth when it comes to gossip and tittle tattle, and by the time the story is finished, it has no resemblence to that of the original one in the begining.

By the way, I have some juicy stuff to tell you...do you wanna know about....................?

Not so much me but my family, it would take a life time to tell, thank goodness I have now obtained selective memory to go with my selective hearing.

All JWs gossip in the worst form, what else have they got to in miserable lives?

"...with the women being powerless, this is one way they could use some sort of power and be "better" than another.  The power structure inside that organization was ripe for passive aggressive power by the women.  I think its the only way some very intelligent women didn't go crazy.  Unfortunate, unhealthy, but understandable."

Good analysis. I have to say , though , that the worse gossips I know are the elders. I've lost count of the number of times at elders meetings or in groups of 2 or 3 on the ministry or at the KH that the elders just used to prattle on about the supposed failings of brothers & sisters. Of course , they can do in under the guise of "knowing the flock" or dealing with congregation problems. But it often was just idle gossip - on numerous occasions I just changed the subject or terminated the conversation when an elder started to complain about his pet peeve about a brother.

I was a victum because I believe that most elders (who we were forced as teenagers by our parents to talk to when we get into "trouble") are pathetic and try to sound important by going home and telling their wives, and who knows who else, everything about everyone's buisess.  What else would they talk about?  It is not like they have lives, or anything exciting happen ever. 

Only when I attend a meeting.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3xBydH93eDY

I can't say for sure that I have been a victim of gossip, being outside the group other than having married one of them. But that wouldn't surprise me a bit. The Ex certainly brought plenty of gossip home and told me, as if I should be interested in who got PUBLIC REPROOF last week. Public reproof: such fertile soil for the congregation busy-bodies!

Considering how often I saw her and other Witnesses talk nicely to somebody's face then smear them behind their back, I wouldn't be at all surprised if I was the target of gossip, especially when word got out that we were separating. Tough luck, tongue wagging finger pointers: I did nothing to give her "scriptural grounds" for the divorce, so you're not going to find anything worth talking about.

Joke for you

A ruba dub dub has joined the ranks of the borg and God notices him, keeps watch, and then notices his progress, and asks him, "what would you like"? The dub replies, "well, maybe pioneer and a Ministerial servantship". God says "ok". H e makes more progress, and God speaks to him again asking him, and he becomes an elder, then PO, then a CO. Not happy with all these so called advancements and priviliges given to him, God asks him why he isnt happy, and he replies, "because I really wnat to know what goes on in the congregations". The next morning he woke up, he was a sister.