Armagedon delayed so we are planning babies at 37 years old!! Advice?

Have I missed the boat?  Never thought the system would go on so I would never face this situation....Problem is my mum always told me how I was the firstborn after 4 baby deaths {this really messed her up and scared me}  Me and my Sister who is married and 30 have had no kids....no grandkids for my family.  I'm financially well off, and without kids I spend money on whatever I want and have pets but....still feels abit empty.  Hope it works out, just very scared about trying.

I'm 42 with a 14 month old girl. She is a light in my life. Nothing can compare to meeting your child for the first time.

Go for it and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Hi Witness 007,

I say go for it! Children are a gift, I have two :)

All the best,

Stephen

Witness007:

I had my 3rd child at 38.  I know many people that are older than that that have had babies.  I can think of at least 3 people that had babies at 48(mother). 

Go for it.  You will never regret it.

Witness007, go for it. You are not too old.

Yeah I sort of thought un-protected sex for afew months would make a baby....nope, not that easy... 

  WITNESS- Make love like bunnies and make it happen if that's what you BOTH want !  Peace out, Mr. Flipper

Me and my wife started when I was about 31 she was only 25 here we are 8 years later at 20 weeks expecting on Nov. 22nd we tried for 3 years before we got pregnant the first time and had to go through 4 miscarriages. I will be almost 40 at the time and I couldn't be happier.

PM me if you would like we had a lot of trouble but we have learned a lot as well and my wife would be more then happy to share info via email. Over seas phone call could be expensive..

These are all good stories to hear... I am 33 and hubby is 38...  we just got married last summer and want to do so many things and travel before we could even think about having kids... heck- I need to graduate college first...

We'll probably be 36-37 and 42-43 when we have our first... fingers crossed.

I had my first two children in my early 20's, my last one at 43.

I'm a much better parent now then with my first two.

My preschooler has two mature parents in a solid relationship. My hubby and I both have good jobs that give us plenty of free time and we are debt free with money in the bank.  Our child is the center and the light of our lives.

My two older children had none of those things.

I strongly encourage people to wait until they are at least 30 to have children.

Best of luck to you.

I had my last child at 38.  Go for it!

Josie

First, decide whether or not you're willing to make the sacrifices needed to properly handle an 18-year project.

It's hard work, but it's extremely rewarding. You're still young.

-LWT (father of two)

Yeah it's scary if you're successful; it's scary if you're not - had only 1 miscarriage and that felt like my heart would literally explode with grief - how your mom coped with 4 ... poor, poor woman, but she got you in the end!!!

Look, just go for it! Whatever happens happens. Kids add another dimension to life. Eventually we had two. Despite the worry, the frustration, the wanting to strangle them at times ;-) , they are the best things that happened to us, glad we took the gamble, love them to pieces. 

In my experience, it's longer than 18 years.  My oldest is 23.  She still lives at home.  She is still in college after taking a couple of long breaks from school and starting a semester "late" after graduating high school.

My 19 year old is also still living at home.  He is going to a local technical school.

I'm not complaining .  I'm just saying in today's world you better plan on a 25 year project.

My dad was 39 when I was born. My mom was 36. Look at how I turned out. I say go for it.

W

In my experience, it's longer than 18 years. 

Yes, I agree.

I should have said, "at least an 18-year project".

They can always leave and never come back at 18, but that's unlikely and undesirable.

First, decide whether or not you're willing to make the sacrifices needed to properly handle an 18-year project. 

LOL - we're not at the 18 year mark yet, but I hear it's a lifelong project. You're always going to be a parent even when they are 50 and you're shuffling around with a zimmer.

Best wishes W007.....there is nothing more exciting, life changing, frustrating or fulfilling as having and raising a child.  My husband was the last child, his mother was in her mid thirties when she had him, that was in the late 1950's.

r.

Oh yes - forgot to add: my MIL was 39 when she gave birth to my husband.

My husband was 41 when our 3rd was born, and 32 when our second was born (he wasn't there for the first:). I was 34 when our last one was born. Go for it, and try using the reverse rhythim method of birth control. Very effective for me:) Once your wife knows the best time, it works like a charm.

Then again, trying is the fun part. Maybe you don't want to be so efficient about it:)